After they have resolved to get a divorce, many couples face the temptation to want to “get it over with” as quickly as possible. Divorce can be a deeply emotional and potentially stressful process, and while it is, of course, only natural to want to resolve it in as little time as is necessary, it is important to remember that this is a big step that must be handled with care. Divorce is much more than a piece of paper – it is a plan for your future. With so much to consider, like property division, child custody, and spousal support, it is essential that you take the time to consider your divorce from all angles.
One of the biggest pitfalls people fall into when they rush their divorce is failing to consider the financial implications of their decisions. For example, a spouse who is willing to settle for “anything” just to get the divorce finalized may end up cheating him or herself out of something that they are rightfully entitled to. They may decide that they don’t care how property is divided and could lose out on a valuable asset, such as part of a pension, for example, for which they may have had a claim. Alternatively, a spouse may decide that they are willing to pay the other spouse’s rent indefinitely just to get them out of the house. While this may seem like a good idea initially, this is not a sustainable long-term solution. What happens if the spouse who has moved out moves into a new place with a more expensive rent? What if they do so with a new girlfriend or boyfriend – should the ex-spouse still be responsible for paying the rent? These are the types of scenarios that many people fail to consider in their rush to obtain a divorce decree.
Additionally, rushing a divorce can result in a lot of unresolved anger and emotional disappointment. Just because a couple has gotten legally divorced does not mean that their emotions have necessarily kept pace. All too often, this leads couples right back into court after their divorce to resolve conflicts that were never properly addressed in the first place. Not only is this a huge emotional burden, it is also one that can take months or even years to resolve and cost a significant amount of money.
If you are considering a divorce, it is important that you involve a qualified attorney from the start who can help you think logically about all aspects of your divorce and how they will impact your future. By taking the time to handle your divorce correctly the first time, you will be far less likely to have lingering issues after your divorce that could make the whole process even longer.
The San Diego divorce lawyers at Moore, Schulman & Moore, APC have more than 200 years of combined experience in the field of family law. We have helped countless Southern California families find smart and efficient solutions to their marital law issues – in fact, we’re known as San Diego’s Family Law Experts®.
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